Now let me tell you what exactly feminism is and what exactly it means.

In simple words, feminism is all about both genders having equality of rights and opportunities. It is something that aims at fighting for equal rights for women as men. It is about respecting women's abilities the same as men's. 

I am also a feminist, I support all women for their equal roles and rights. But I don't support women when they take advantage of this term feminism for granted. I just fight for equal roles and rights for women. But at times just because of those who take the wrong use of feminism, people misunderstand it they think all feminists are like this, making wrong use of it. 

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This is the only reason why the term "Fake Feminism" has come into existence. What fake feminism is?  It is nothing but refers to taking undue advantage of the term feminism. It is something like showing that men have done something wrong with a woman, but exactly that is not the case. They wrongly create that scenario. Recently, I have heard of many cases of fake feminism and those were really shocking. The most common and most spread case was of the Zomato boy where a girl showed that a Zomato delivery guy has beaten her and harassed her and the outcome of which that guy lost his job and was beaten a lot by the people. This is a clear-cut case of feminism, where injustice has been done with that Zomato delivery guy. 

Also, feminism doesn't mean those who are undeserving must get that opportunity. We feminists fight for those who actually are deserving. Like if we take an example of an army or a police job where many times a woman/girl gets discriminated against or rejected just because she is a woman or a girl and they are not strong enough without even testing her strengths and abilities. That is something where we feminists come into existence. 

Whether it is a man or a woman, I was a feminist and would support them if something wrong happened to them. I will never support a man or a woman where they would be wrong. This term feminism came into existence in our country, despite equal rights being defined for women but they are not given the same whether it would be in case of education, job, or anything. For a long time in our country, women/girls are facing discrimination. 

There are many cases of fake feminism, but the thing is they are wrongly understood no one tries to go in-depth about what actually happened and who is the real culprit. For everyone, the reality is what is shown to them whether is true or not. This is the only reason why people misunderstood feminists and think that we are supporting even the wrong people. But that's not true and that is the reason why I am here to clarify your point that we / feminists are not wrong, we are just misunderstood because of some false cases.

Support/stand for equal roles and rights for men and women both, raise your voice if something wrong is happening with a man or a woman, help them, support them.

Self-confidence and Self-esteem are two terms which you have in yourself to get a better life or I would say to get a successful mindset. But people may get confused between them, Some of them don't know they both are different from each other.

Self-confidence and self-esteem are two terms that are often used interchangeably. Because of a general misunderstanding about what constitutes self-esteem, people can get caught up in a merry-go-round of constantly trying to become better at a particular task, climb the career ladder, or focus all their attention on their looks in the hope that it’ll increase their self-esteem. In fact, self-confidence and self-esteem bear only a passing relationship with each other.

What is self-confidence?

Self-confidence, on the other hand, refers to the confidence we have in particular areas of our lives. We may feel very confident about getting up on stage to perform. We might feel confident regarding our work skills. We may have won several baking prizes and feel confident about our cake-making skills.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is how we regard ourselves. It’s how we rate ourselves as human beings, how worthy we feel we are of a place in the world, just as we are. Self-esteem refers to our acceptance of ourselves and the value we place on ourselves. The word “esteem” means to regard highly or favorably. When we apply that to ourselves — and it is high — we regard ourselves highly. When it’s low, we regard ourselves lowly. It’s our overall evaluation of ourselves as human beings. 

Why the confusion?

People often confuse self-confidence with self-esteem. They put all their effort into being the best sportsperson in the world and they’re very confident about their sporting abilities, but even getting the Olympic gold doesn’t make them happy. Think of all the celebrities who are dissatisfied with their lives, despite receiving Oscars and Grammys. Through years of excelling in a particular area of life and receiving positive feedback for it, they may well be self-confident in that area but, if their self-esteem remains low, they still don’t feel happy in themselves.

The sense of confusion between self-confidence and self-esteem often sends people down the wrong road to become that person who is more settled in their own skin. They may feel that a boob job will make them love themselves more, only to find that they now want a nose job and skin tuck, and — at the end of all the procedures — they still don’t fundamentally like themselves. 

Chasing solutions in terms of becoming better and better at something, or more and more attractive, means that you’re operating from a point of fear. The fear of being unacceptable — to yourself and to others — drives you to continually improve yourself. This can become a never-ending cycle as the self-confidence goals move further and further away.

How you regard yourself is probably set in your childhood. Whether or not you were given unconditional love and acceptance as a child will influence whether you accept yourself unconditionally or not. If you felt that you had to be the best or the most attractive to be accepted by your parents this will influence your connection between accepting yourself as being based on your achievements. article continues after the advertisement

This isn’t to say that striving to be good at something you derive satisfaction from is a bad thing. And, whilst self-esteem is often established at an early age, it does fluctuate throughout a person’s life. Part of that fluctuation may be related to feeling high levels of self-confidence about your career, role in the family, or creative pursuits. What I am saying is, don’t assume that gaining high self-confidence in any particular area is going to automatically lead to feeling better about yourself. Improving your self-esteem involves working on self-acceptance and self-love as opposed to constantly trying to ‘fix’ yourself by working on what you can do better.

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Author: Arun Rajput.