Life lessons that I am following to make living easy.
Each person has its own rules in life which design their personality and also have some of these. As I am a reader, thus here are some rules which I follow. Today I am going to share with you step by step Just simple and short.
Rule 1: Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders Back:
Believe it or not but posture is everything that leads our personality first. There is a part of your brain that is constantly monitoring signals to figure out your position in society. How you see others and vice-versa.
“To stand up straight with your shoulders back is to accept the terrible responsibility of life, with eyes wide open. It means deciding to voluntarily transform the chaos of potential into the realities of habitable order.It means willingly undertaking the sacrifices necessary to generate a productive and meaningful reality.”
If you slouch, you convey defeat and low status to others; they will then treat you poorly, which will reinforce your status.
Fix your posture to get others to treat you better, which will make you feel better and stand tall, thus kicking off a virtuous cycle.
Rule 2: Treat Yourself Like Someone You Are Responsible for Helping:
If you want that others to respect you then you have to do it on yourself first. If you believe you’re not worth helping. Instead, you have to believe that you have a vital mission in this world, and you are obliged to take care of yourself.
Many people are better at filling prescriptions for their dogs than themselves. Similarly, you may self-sabotage yourself daily – by not taking care of your health, not keeping promises you make to yourself. If you lose yourself to either, it will be hard to find meaning. But learning the art of balancing the two will allow you to create a meaningful path.
Rule 3: Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed:
This is the most important rule because a person is average of people around him. Surround yourself with people who support you and genuinely want to see you succeed. You will push each other to greater heights; each person’s life improves as the others improve. They won’t tolerate your cynicism, and they will punish you when you mistreat yourself.
Don’t associate with people who want to drag you down to make them feel better about themselves.
Don’t accept charity cases by helping people who don’t accept personal responsibility for their actions. People who don’t want to improve can’t be helped.
Rule 4: Judge yourself by your own goals, not by others:
Define your goals; No matter how good you are at something, or how you rank your accomplishments, there is someone out there who makes you look incompetent. it’s easy to compare yourself to the best of every field (looks, wealth, marriage, career) and think of yourself as miserably outclassed. But modern society is so complex that everyone has different goals – which makes comparing to other people pointless. Understand what you want, and why.
Transform your goals into something achievable today. If it’s not within your control, look somewhere else. Let every day end a little better than it started. If you do this correctly, you’ll stop being obsessed with other people’s success, because you have plenty to do yourself.
Rule 5: Before blaming anything else, think: have I done everything within my ability to solve the problem?
You have to learn that you are not always right because it causes Ego. It’s easy to blame the outside world, a group of people, or a specific person for your misfortunes.
But before you do this, question – have you taken full advantage of every opportunity available to you? Or are you just sitting on your ass, pointing fingers? Are you doing anything you know is wrong? Stop in today.
Stop saying things that make you feel ashamed and cowardly. Start saying things that make you feel strong. Do only those things about which you would speak with honor.
Rule 6: Do what is meaningful to you, and you will feel better about existing:
As you know this lead to our Tagline ” LIVE YOUR LIFE “. What is your true nature? What must you become, knowing who you are? Work toward this. Doing good provides your life with meaning. Meaning defeats existential angst; it gratifies your short-term impulses to achieve long-term goals; it makes your life worth living. Think – how can I make the world a little bit better today? Pay attention. Fix what you can fix. People watched the successful succeed and the unsuccessful fail for thousands and thousands of years.
We thought it over and drew a conclusion: The successful among us delay gratification. The successful among us bargain with the future. A great idea begins to emerge, taking ever-more-clearly-articulated form, in ever more-clearly-articulated stories: What’s the difference between the successful and the unsuccessful? The successful sacrifice.
You may come to ask yourself, “What should I do today?” in a manner that means “How could I use my time to make things better, instead of worse?” To have meaning in your life is better than to have what you want, because you may neither know what you want, nor what you truly need. Meaning is something that comes upon you, of its own accord. You can set up the preconditions, you can follow meaning when it manifests itself, but you cannot simply produce it, as an act of will.
Rule 7: Stop lying, Act only in ways in line with your personal truth:
Tell the Truth, or at least Don’t Lie. it is good to lie sometimes because I can understand all circumstances but there is a time when the curtain goes down. Better than that you tell the truth.
You may lie to others to get what you want; you may lie to yourself to feel better. But deep down you know it’s inconsistent with your beliefs, and you feel unsettled.
Lies can be about how much you enjoy your job; whether you want to be in a relationship; whether you’re capable of something; that a bad habit isn’t that bad for you; that things will magically work out.
This your choice what to do but in my opinion it’s better, to tell the truth, or at least necessary information.
Rule 8: Listen to other people thoughtfully. You’ll learn something, and they’ll trust you:
People talk because this is how they think. They need to verbalize their memories and emotions to clearly formulate the problem, then solve it. As a listener, you are helping the other person think. Sometimes you need to say nothing; other times, you serve as the voice of common reason. The most effective listening technique: summarize the person’s message.
This forces you to genuinely understand what is being said; it distills the moral of the story, perhaps clarifying more than the speaker herself. Assume that your conversation partner has reached careful, thoughtful conclusions based on her own valid experiences. If you listen, instead, without premature judgment, people will generally tell you everything they are thinking—and with very little deceit. People will tell you the most amazing, absurd, interesting things. Very few of your conversations will be boring.
Rule 9: Be Precise in Your Speech:
Define your problem specifically. It becomes easier to deal with. Anxiety usually comes from the unknown. You don’t know what the problem is, or something vague seems really scary. Specificity turns chaos into a thing that you can deal with. If you have a vague unease, you will struggle with it until you define it explicitly and give it a concrete form. Once you precisely identify the issue, you will likely realize that you were far more afraid than you should have been, and you now have a specific target to confront.
When you have a problem, there is often the temptation to paper it over, to think the problem will go away by itself. It’s easier to keep the peace and avoid the anxiety, despair, sadness that will come with confronting your problems. It’s easier to pretend the problem doesn’t exist than to admit it does and the pain that accompanies it.
In the end – this all information is based on the Book named ” 12 Rules For Life “ and I must recommend this book to each person.
Thanks for reading and do share if you like it.
Author: Arun Rajput.
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