New year - everyone plans so much for the new year, to do this and that, and many aspire to fulfill their dreams and wishes in short for each and every person a new year is filled with lots of hopes. 

But if I say about me, for the coming I don't really have much of hopes or wishes, I just want some peace in my life and want to spread happiness among my loved ones. The reason for this is something that I am going to share with you from my 2022 experience.

Like everyone at the start of 2022, I too had lots of hopes, wishes, aspirations, and dreams which I wanted to fulfill but what happened was total which I never thought of which shocked me totally. I lost some very close people in my life: one whom with which I dreamt of spending my whole life and another who was also very close to me.

Some of my wishes, and dreams were broken and because of this, I was broken for some time I was not even in a state to handle myself. Still, at the same time in my career, I was at a point where I had started growing and I couldn't be careless there because of what was happening in my personal life. So I just learned to be strong in handling my emotions, and have a broken heart for my career and my family. 

So for me the year 2022 was no doubt tough, but there is no doubt I had some friends and my family who made my 2022 worth it, they were the reason for my smile. Not only this, in this I did a lot for myself in terms of my career and my personal life and for that, I got appreciated also. This year made me realize that my happiness is not dependent on anyone's existence in my life, it's totally mine.

The reason why I am sharing my last year's experience is that I want everyone to learn that even if the hopes or aspirations or dreams or wishes are not fulfilled due to any reason,  never feel sad because someday it will happen, and your dreams will come true. 

"Start your new year with a fresh mind, zero stress, and a smile on your face."

Wishing you a happy and healthy new year from team Dil Zindagi.

India will celebrate its 76th Independence Day on August 15. The day marks the country's freedom from the British Raj in 1947.

A true friend- who is a true friend? Do true friends exist in this world of selfish people? I know this is a question of many people nowadays till the time they don't have a friend with whom they can be themself and share every feeling whether good or bad.

She has rightly proved that no one or nothing can stop you from achieving your goals if you work hard for them and do what it requires to reach your destination. She has now become the true inspiration for all of us may it be men Or women.

In our country, caste discrimination has become so common that people from low castes like the tribal community don't even get a chance to prove their abilities despite being talented or hardworking, they are judged based on their caste. Our Madam President has broken all those walls of gender and caste discrimination. She is proud to be a woman and proudly says that she belongs to a tribal community. 

Many people may be simply writing about her journey, but no one is seeing what makes her different from others, why she has become an inspiration, or I would say idol also for some or many it depends. 

Despite being a single mother, and losing her husband and 2 sons she never stopped loving, instead, she dedicated all her life to society, and to serve society she donated all her property to build a school for the needy as she rightly knows the importance of education. 

Also, she became the 1st Women Governor of Jharkhand in 2015 and since then she was dedicatedly serving Jharkhand. Despite being from a tribal community and a woman who lost her family she has achieved so much. 

Also, she won the "Nilkantha Award" for the "Best MLA of the Year" in the year 2007. She is now the "Commander in Chief"  of the 3 armies of India. 

For me especially, she is the true inspiration, my will now to achieve my goals has become stronger. We can say her story is the "Victory of her Struggle" and this is indeed a very proud moment for each and every citizen of India that we have a President like her. 

In the past few years, even after losing so much in her life, she has finally gotten the best outcome of her struggle, dedication, and hard work for society. In the end, my say to all of you would be:

Never be afraid of hard work, and struggle, and never underestimate anyone may it be a man or woman, just believe in yourself and focus on your goal, and you will definitely achieve it.

Struggle - is a very common word in our life. What does struggle mean to you? Is it something like clearing your mid-semester exams or board exams, or it sometimes means opening a cap of a bottle that is too tight, or is it something like climbing 100 stairs of a temple? 

Basically, when we try very hard to do or to achieve something in our life which is too difficult, then we refer to it as a struggle. Since we are born, we struggle which starts with our cry to come out of our mother's womb and open our eyes, it continues and ends up at our death struggling to get peace in heaven. The struggle is something without which our life is incomplete. 

Our parents struggle to make us stand on our feet, to get us admitted to the best school. Our life is made up of these small struggles. 

Sometimes, people think why there is so much struggle and they are fed up with this struggle. But they don't understand that struggle is like hard work and if we get something without trying hard for it, then it has no meaning and we won't value it. 

I very well know that nowadays everyone wants real-life examples, you won't directly believe or get convinced simply by my words. So, I am going to share my life's struggles with you in a hope that you will understand and value them. 

Being from a middle-class family, is in itself no less than a struggle, especially when you have siblings, you have to fight for clothes, for some or the other thing but at last when we get we do value it. So, the same is my life. I am also from a middle-class family and I have 2 siblings: an elder sister and a younger brother. 

For me, since my childhood life was no less than a struggle, sometimes I had to struggle to clear my exams and get good marks as I used to be an average student, and sometimes I had to struggle to get my parents convinced to get a dress or something to me.

Also, we are 3 siblings, so my father struggled to get all  3 of us educated and get settled in our lives. After school/college, I struggled for more than a year to get a good job as I had pursued my graduation from a so-so college where we don't have campus placements. So I used to apply daily for 10 jobs on various platforms, out of which only 2-3 used to respond. 

Also, I have given around 20 interviews offline and online and finally I landed up getting training from HCL Technologies which too paid for that also I struggled and after that training waiting for 2 months I got my project. And as I said earlier, the struggle is something after which we get what makes us happy and we value it.

I am happy with my work, loving it and I had understood the importance of struggle. But yes I know it's not ended here, there is a lot more to see and achieve for which I do have to work hard and struggle. 

So, guys, my motto to share my own life example is to make you understand the importance of struggle, From birth to death, we struggle, and if we get something without it we won't value it. So never think that struggle is something bad, as times bitter things give sweet results. 

" The struggle is an integral part of our life, never ever get stressed up because of it. " 

Now let me tell you what exactly feminism is and what exactly it means.

In simple words, feminism is all about both genders having equality of rights and opportunities. It is something that aims at fighting for equal rights for women as men. It is about respecting women's abilities the same as men's. 

I am also a feminist, I support all women for their equal roles and rights. But I don't support women when they take advantage of this term feminism for granted. I just fight for equal roles and rights for women. But at times just because of those who take the wrong use of feminism, people misunderstand it they think all feminists are like this, making wrong use of it. 

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This is the only reason why the term "Fake Feminism" has come into existence. What fake feminism is?  It is nothing but refers to taking undue advantage of the term feminism. It is something like showing that men have done something wrong with a woman, but exactly that is not the case. They wrongly create that scenario. Recently, I have heard of many cases of fake feminism and those were really shocking. The most common and most spread case was of the Zomato boy where a girl showed that a Zomato delivery guy has beaten her and harassed her and the outcome of which that guy lost his job and was beaten a lot by the people. This is a clear-cut case of feminism, where injustice has been done with that Zomato delivery guy. 

Also, feminism doesn't mean those who are undeserving must get that opportunity. We feminists fight for those who actually are deserving. Like if we take an example of an army or a police job where many times a woman/girl gets discriminated against or rejected just because she is a woman or a girl and they are not strong enough without even testing her strengths and abilities. That is something where we feminists come into existence. 

Whether it is a man or a woman, I was a feminist and would support them if something wrong happened to them. I will never support a man or a woman where they would be wrong. This term feminism came into existence in our country, despite equal rights being defined for women but they are not given the same whether it would be in case of education, job, or anything. For a long time in our country, women/girls are facing discrimination. 

There are many cases of fake feminism, but the thing is they are wrongly understood no one tries to go in-depth about what actually happened and who is the real culprit. For everyone, the reality is what is shown to them whether is true or not. This is the only reason why people misunderstood feminists and think that we are supporting even the wrong people. But that's not true and that is the reason why I am here to clarify your point that we / feminists are not wrong, we are just misunderstood because of some false cases.

Support/stand for equal roles and rights for men and women both, raise your voice if something wrong is happening with a man or a woman, help them, support them.

Self-confidence and Self-esteem are two terms which you have in yourself to get a better life or I would say to get a successful mindset. But people may get confused between them, Some of them don't know they both are different from each other.

Self-confidence and self-esteem are two terms that are often used interchangeably. Because of a general misunderstanding about what constitutes self-esteem, people can get caught up in a merry-go-round of constantly trying to become better at a particular task, climb the career ladder, or focus all their attention on their looks in the hope that it’ll increase their self-esteem. In fact, self-confidence and self-esteem bear only a passing relationship with each other.

What is self-confidence?

Self-confidence, on the other hand, refers to the confidence we have in particular areas of our lives. We may feel very confident about getting up on stage to perform. We might feel confident regarding our work skills. We may have won several baking prizes and feel confident about our cake-making skills.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is how we regard ourselves. It’s how we rate ourselves as human beings, how worthy we feel we are of a place in the world, just as we are. Self-esteem refers to our acceptance of ourselves and the value we place on ourselves. The word “esteem” means to regard highly or favorably. When we apply that to ourselves — and it is high — we regard ourselves highly. When it’s low, we regard ourselves lowly. It’s our overall evaluation of ourselves as human beings. 

Why the confusion?

People often confuse self-confidence with self-esteem. They put all their effort into being the best sportsperson in the world and they’re very confident about their sporting abilities, but even getting the Olympic gold doesn’t make them happy. Think of all the celebrities who are dissatisfied with their lives, despite receiving Oscars and Grammys. Through years of excelling in a particular area of life and receiving positive feedback for it, they may well be self-confident in that area but, if their self-esteem remains low, they still don’t feel happy in themselves.

The sense of confusion between self-confidence and self-esteem often sends people down the wrong road to become that person who is more settled in their own skin. They may feel that a boob job will make them love themselves more, only to find that they now want a nose job and skin tuck, and — at the end of all the procedures — they still don’t fundamentally like themselves. 

Chasing solutions in terms of becoming better and better at something, or more and more attractive, means that you’re operating from a point of fear. The fear of being unacceptable — to yourself and to others — drives you to continually improve yourself. This can become a never-ending cycle as the self-confidence goals move further and further away.

How you regard yourself is probably set in your childhood. Whether or not you were given unconditional love and acceptance as a child will influence whether you accept yourself unconditionally or not. If you felt that you had to be the best or the most attractive to be accepted by your parents this will influence your connection between accepting yourself as being based on your achievements. article continues after the advertisement

This isn’t to say that striving to be good at something you derive satisfaction from is a bad thing. And, whilst self-esteem is often established at an early age, it does fluctuate throughout a person’s life. Part of that fluctuation may be related to feeling high levels of self-confidence about your career, role in the family, or creative pursuits. What I am saying is, don’t assume that gaining high self-confidence in any particular area is going to automatically lead to feeling better about yourself. Improving your self-esteem involves working on self-acceptance and self-love as opposed to constantly trying to ‘fix’ yourself by working on what you can do better.

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Author: Arun Rajput.

Trust seems a small word and easy word but it is not, it is the most difficult word. It's not at all easy to trust anyone, especially in today's world. I am telling this as it's my personal experience which I am going to share with you. I am doing so because people nowadays don't believe in just words but if they see anyone's personal experience they learn from that and try not to repeat what that person has suffered.